Private Party

My advice to singleton this Valentines Day - don't wallow, have a private party and make the day yours

Anti-Ally: The MisogyNoir Behind Ally McBeal

*DISCLAIMER* - mentions of rape and mild reference of child abuse* If there's one thing I learnt in 2020, it's how much early 90s to early 00s sitcom I can consecutively consume. While national lockdowns trapped me in a vicious cycle of binging on box sets, I stumbled upon Ally McBeal. I vaguely remember watching …

U . N . D . E . R . D . O . G

To my lost one I would have changed everything about myself to please youRather than have the self respect or the resolve to leave youLast week, I would have made every concession, But now I have to vie for your affectionNow I have to compete for your attentionThere is no competition, I can't do this …

Dating While Depressed – Part 1

Dating while depressed is just an extremely difficult process and a hard decision to make. The very nature of dating and opening up your heart to someone requires vulnerability and a certain fragility. Allowing myself to be that vulnerable and open while already in a compromised headspace is draining. Furthermore current dating protocols mean everyone …

Summer Seventeen (Repeated)

I let this guy first ruin my life in 2017, it’s now 2019 and I’m still having sleepless nights over him. Is this what happens when someone with Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder (EUPD) meets someone with Emotional Detachment Disorder (EDD) and everything implodes. I have too many feelings, they're all are too intense and his …

When Will We Get The Time To Be Just Friends…?

I think as equality amongst the sexes increases both socially and financially, the nature of the male-female relationship dynamic has mutated. It's more than feasible for males and females to be just friends but friendship is evolving to where the parameters of what defines friendship has eroded. It's more than just either platonic or romantic. …

To Be Or Not To Be, That Is The Question

  In the words of Keyshia Cole, "I changed my mind, I don't want you no more". I feel like I've only just finished editing my last post about re-entering the dating pool, only for me to decide "computer says no". In the past couple months I've been on a few dates and talked to …

Fall For Your Type

So it's that time of the year, I'm dating again. Yayy...not! I'm the original anti-dater; I'm just too awkward, it feels like a job interview and my anxiety is crippling. So then why am I subjecting myself to this torture again? My desire to enter into the dating pool is for several reasons; my brother's …

How Do You Solve A Problem Like Maria – My Love Languages

How do you solve a problem like Maria? You give her the most amazing best friend, regular DBT meetings, compliant medication and regular orgasms; I have 2 out of 4 so the working out is there but there's no answer. So how else do you solve a problem like Maria...you love her in the way she …

Buss It Right Open For The Real One

So, I’m an early 20 something females, who borders on asexuality, occasionally repulsed by physical interactions but crave companionship and mental intimacy. However after a barren and pitiful romantic history, the commencing of a new season of Love Island and my brother’s imminent nuptials to a lovely amazing girl who is only 1 year older …